Is love something that we need or is it something we think we need? If there was no love, we would survive. I mean it is possible for one to live and not be loved. Not having love in our life isn't fatal, we sure think it is, but really, it will not kill us. Sometimes our wants overpower our needs and we think we need something. The only thing we actually need in life is the basic survival needs such as food water, etc. Everything else we just think we need. From a needs perspective in regards to love and relationships, they both should be something we want not need. As humans, we get the needs and wants reversed often. At times what we need we don't want and want we don't need.
Many times especially in relationships, because of the want to not be alone people settle into a relationship they do not need. To secure this relationship. It seems many people appear to be something they are not. People put on masks. We all do it. We have a mask we wear in front of our families and another at work and even a different one when we are with our friends. Some people do not even know who their real self is. Through my experience, it always seems to work out best for me when I am just myself. It is important to like who you are because if you do, you are more apt to be yourself around others. I call people who act like something they are not, "Fakers." Some people don't do this on purpose, they just have low-self esteem and have to build themselves into something they are not. Be yourself, what's not to like. Remember that many times what we think is a need is actually a want.---Keith
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I suppose every generation that passes through this existence says, "They don't make things like they used to." My generation is no different. Here are some things I have observed that they don't make like they did when I was a kid.
Snickers bars used to be huge. A king size snickers today, was the standard size bar when I was a kid. Moon pies, they used to be huge, now they are so small. Hot wheels used to be entirely metal, now the bottoms of them are plastic. Toys, in general, are all plastic and cheap. Whatever happened to cartoons like Bugs Bunny and the Roadrunner, "Gone." Cartoons like "Hong Kong Phooey," are gone. The Justice League, the Superfriends are all way in the past. Cartoons now days are too complicated for kids, they are no fun. They require too much thought for kids. My grandson watches PBS cartoons and that is all. Prices rise and the quality of products go down. Even socks, t-shirts and underwear are cheap now. When I was a kid t-shirts were thick and durable, now I can almost poke my finger through them tearing a hole. What are some things you have run across that are poorly made? I hate to see how poor the quality of things will be when my Grandson is forty-five. --Keith The brain 's complexity is beyond our comprehension. There are receptors in the brain for example in drug addicts and alcoholics that crave the chemical difference that takes place when they use their drug of choice. What is interesting is that there are receptors that crave the chemical reaction that takes place when we fall prey to one of our character defects as well. An example is an anger. When one tries to change this particular character defect by acting in healthier ways, that receptor gets hungry for the stimulus it gets when one gets angry, when this person changes this behavior it deprives the receptor this stimulus and it gets really hungry so to speak. This is why it is so easy to slip back into old behaviors. These things are so ingrained to these receptors, they are many times stronger than the person. It is hard to change negative behaviors, but we must keep trying.
Take anger for example. Anger comes in many different forms. Some people view anger as perhaps a person who is full of rage. People think anger is someone who is cursing, throwing things, hitting things or other people. These are examples of the anger of course, but anger also can be just holding things inside yourself and not talking about them. This is also a form of anger that many people don't realize or think about. Anger can take on the form of resentments which can manifest itself into a low level of constant agitation and frustration. This in return builds up in a person until they lash out, or it stays there festering leading to depression. Anger and depression go hand in hand, it is hard to say which comes first. These things result in elevated blood pressure, headaches, body aches, high cholesterol, and leads some people to drink or drug use. Learn to talk about issues that make you angry, if we do this, we will be in better general health. --Keith As a boy, I remember my dad and grandparent's talking about how things were much simpler when they were growing up. They talked about how the times were changing, especially prices of things such as movies and food. Here I am fifty and it is weird to think that I am old enough now to think back to a time when things seemed simpler. Unreal, but that's the reality. I was raised in the eighties and it was even simpler then. There wasn't the internet, not in households anyway. No cell phones, but bag phones that very few people owned. Prices were cheaper, especially food. Some of you reading this may think the things I mentioned such as phones and the internet have made things simpler, I disagree, if technology stops working even for five minutes, people panic. Leave your phone at home for one day or stay off the internet for one day and see if it's that easy. Life was easier when we didn't know what these things were, these things were not in our lives to miss, because we didn't have them. Technology makes us stupid. Many people can't even count back change anymore because cash machines tell them how much change to give back to customers. So strange that now I am one of those people talking about how much simpler things used to be. Unbelievable.
Keith Life can get too comfortable at times. So comfortable in the fact that we get scared to try anything new. Staying in our comfort zone also hinders us from getting out of an unhealthy or boring rut. In life sometimes you just have to say "F " it. It is a good thing to step out of our comfort zone by trying new things and taking risks. Most importantly by stepping out of our comfort zone, it helps us to grow as individuals, it enhances our being and teaches us new things. We gain confidence because it helps us to realize we can accomplish new things. So just say "F" it, and try something new and challenge yourself.
What is your purpose in life? This question can drive a person nuts, but why let it? Does it really even matter what your purpose is? This is an important question for some. I never have thought much about it really. I have some ideas of what my purpose is, but not sure what it is. Point is, we will never know what our purpose is here in life, maybe afterward, I don't know, but not here, so why to worry about it. I don't even care what my purpose is, why should I? I am here and that is that. Nobody is asking for my advice, but here is some. Don't worry about your purpose, don't worry about life, just live it, because "You are here." It is really simple, it is the thought we put into it that makes it hard. --Keith |
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